Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Not all of us live in perfect families. Not all of us have perfect lives. In fact most of us have some baggage we carry with us. My sister and I had a father with a very quick temper. He would burst into anger quicker than a match into flame and the intensity was as strong. We suffered from harsh words and physical wounds through most of our youth.
Why is it that those who live in households where they have to "walk on eggs" grow up and live in the same kinds of homes? Why is it that those who grew up in unhealthy relationships seem to fall into the same kind as adults? I promised myself as a teen that I would never be yelled at again or live in fear once I left my father's home. I believe that everyone deserves to be safe in their own home. We enter into a world outside our home daily with all it's uncertainties where we need to be on guard but at home one should be able to feel comfortable, secure, loved, and safe. We should be able to let our guard down.
3.3 million children witness domestic violence each year in the U.S. The long term effects on children are far reaching and include such things as post traumatic stress, emotional instability, anti-social behavior, mal-adjustment and a host of physical and emotional disorders.
While I was subbing in head start one day one little boy kept kicking and biting other students. The teacher I worked for took her cell phone from her pocket and called the boy by name telling him she would call his father if he did not settle down. (I had placed him in time out several times and it had not calmed him down.) The little boy raised his voice, rolled his eyes, and with hands on his hips looked the teacher in her eyes and spat out at her "Go ahead! My father went away with the policeman today for hitting my Mama!" He was angry and probably hurt and did not know where to turn or how to act.
1. What can we do to rescue our children?
2. Do you agree with the state that it is better to maintain the unity of the family?
This post linked to Thursday Two Questions. Amanda always has some interesting topics brewing. Thanks so much for visiting me today. Take care, stay healthy and God bless!